“Been hurt?” Well so has everyone else. Please take your bitter, scorned ass to see Morris Bart. That
was for the Women who continue to scream how they know there are no good men left, when in fact
good men are the majority. She too hurt to actually see this even though all her friends are married,
engaged or in healthy, lasting relationships. Ok. Now that I got that out the way, I have been faced with
the conversation about relationships and cheating a lot lately. Touchy subject, I know. But here is my
problem with it…. Everybody thinks they are a relationship expert. THAT is what pisses me off. Don’t
bring your “all men are dogs” attitude to a conversation with me unless you are ready to hear that you,
as a female, have a little K-9 in you as well. There is a cycle. I’m sure I have written about it before and
I will continue to until I no longer hear one sided “it’s not my fault” opinions. Since those aren’t going
anywhere I guess neither is me talking about the cycle.
Women think they have a clear picture of what men want out of life… You ever want to hear me laugh
really hard? Tell me what you think, as a woman, what MEN want out of life. Please do! I might need
a good laugh that day. But here is the question I post to you. How is it possible for you to tell me what
I want out of life, when you don’t know what you want? And some for that matter, who you are! That
goes for men too. Hell we seldom know what the hell we want out of life until specific events happen in
our lives that may lead us in a certain path. So keep that “All men” out of any opening statement. I will
never say “all women” before I say anything. I haven’t met all women. I would love to one day though.
That way I could get a better sample size to see if in fact, majority of women do think the same on a lot
of issues.
Now. We all are at fault in this cycle and who knows where it starts. Boy meets girl. Girl hurts boy. Boy
goes on to hurt another girl. That girl goes on to hurt another boy… so on and so forth. See? A cycle. And
A vicious one at that. But there are strides that we can take to eliminate that cycle. But we can only get
out of it if we work together. Men and women because let’s face it… we need each other. If we don’t
work together it will always be there and the pain of that cycle will fall on our children and our children’s
children.
A lot of men cheat and so do a lot of women. That’s not going to change. Statistics show it. But not all
men and not all women. So ladies/fellas if you find yourself being involved with a cheater, the decision
now is yours to stay and work it out or leave! Maybe it’s just me but if a woman cheats on me, I’m sorry
but there isn’t anything you can tell me that will make me forget. I’ll forgive you because forgiveness is
divine, but I’m not going to stay with you so I can wonder what did you really do on your lunch break or
what did you really go do on that trip with your line sisters. “Baby, why there ain’t no instagram pics of
y’all trip?” Nope. Not Six-5.
But seriously, whatever you decide to do, take responsibility for your action and don’t bring it into the
next relationship. Then you will be adding to the cycle. And don’t let your past linger… WHY?? That may
be the biggest fault of us all. We meet someone new that may be great for us. But we can’t let go of the
pain of who hurt us in the past so now your ex, not only ruined THAT relationship but now messed up
your next attempt at happiness. It’s like when a football team loses a big game and the effects of that
loss cause them to lose the next game to a team that should have been an easy win. Don’t let one team
beat you twice.
]*Deuces*
Happy Halloween Ghouls and Gals!!
was for the Women who continue to scream how they know there are no good men left, when in fact
good men are the majority. She too hurt to actually see this even though all her friends are married,
engaged or in healthy, lasting relationships. Ok. Now that I got that out the way, I have been faced with
the conversation about relationships and cheating a lot lately. Touchy subject, I know. But here is my
problem with it…. Everybody thinks they are a relationship expert. THAT is what pisses me off. Don’t
bring your “all men are dogs” attitude to a conversation with me unless you are ready to hear that you,
as a female, have a little K-9 in you as well. There is a cycle. I’m sure I have written about it before and
I will continue to until I no longer hear one sided “it’s not my fault” opinions. Since those aren’t going
anywhere I guess neither is me talking about the cycle.
Women think they have a clear picture of what men want out of life… You ever want to hear me laugh
really hard? Tell me what you think, as a woman, what MEN want out of life. Please do! I might need
a good laugh that day. But here is the question I post to you. How is it possible for you to tell me what
I want out of life, when you don’t know what you want? And some for that matter, who you are! That
goes for men too. Hell we seldom know what the hell we want out of life until specific events happen in
our lives that may lead us in a certain path. So keep that “All men” out of any opening statement. I will
never say “all women” before I say anything. I haven’t met all women. I would love to one day though.
That way I could get a better sample size to see if in fact, majority of women do think the same on a lot
of issues.
Now. We all are at fault in this cycle and who knows where it starts. Boy meets girl. Girl hurts boy. Boy
goes on to hurt another girl. That girl goes on to hurt another boy… so on and so forth. See? A cycle. And
A vicious one at that. But there are strides that we can take to eliminate that cycle. But we can only get
out of it if we work together. Men and women because let’s face it… we need each other. If we don’t
work together it will always be there and the pain of that cycle will fall on our children and our children’s
children.
A lot of men cheat and so do a lot of women. That’s not going to change. Statistics show it. But not all
men and not all women. So ladies/fellas if you find yourself being involved with a cheater, the decision
now is yours to stay and work it out or leave! Maybe it’s just me but if a woman cheats on me, I’m sorry
but there isn’t anything you can tell me that will make me forget. I’ll forgive you because forgiveness is
divine, but I’m not going to stay with you so I can wonder what did you really do on your lunch break or
what did you really go do on that trip with your line sisters. “Baby, why there ain’t no instagram pics of
y’all trip?” Nope. Not Six-5.
But seriously, whatever you decide to do, take responsibility for your action and don’t bring it into the
next relationship. Then you will be adding to the cycle. And don’t let your past linger… WHY?? That may
be the biggest fault of us all. We meet someone new that may be great for us. But we can’t let go of the
pain of who hurt us in the past so now your ex, not only ruined THAT relationship but now messed up
your next attempt at happiness. It’s like when a football team loses a big game and the effects of that
loss cause them to lose the next game to a team that should have been an easy win. Don’t let one team
beat you twice.
]*Deuces*
Happy Halloween Ghouls and Gals!!
